Sunday, August 24, 2014

So You Think You Can Homeschool?

The quick answer is no.  You thought I was going to say yes, every mom should, every mom can, only good moms do, it is trending to homeschool.  You want to be trendy.  You want to be a good mom.  You want to be like all the other moms...right??  Well...guess what???  You already are a good mom!  And you are not trying to win a popularity contest. You are trying to raise your babies into functioning adults in this crazy world on this wild ride.

Recently I have had several friends take the plunge to homeschool.  Some are old friends from back home and some are new friends in my new home and I have to admit I get excited. 
Planning to homeschool is just that, a plan, a calling...really.  Sometimes the Lord calls you to homeschool before you even have kids and other times your child is in high school.  You may not be called to homeschool your children at all.  Listening to the Holy Spirit and following His plan for your family is what makes homeschooling right for your family.  

As moms we are so passionate about our babies.  It does not matter if they are in kindergarten  or a senior in college...they are our babies!  We moms need to stick together and support each other.  We can not put our convictions on other people.  I learned that early on in my walk with God.  I tried to fit all these "mom molds" I saw around me.  I wanted to be a good mom so I tried to live with other people's convictions.  Well, you can imagine how that went?? 

I prayed and asked God what he wanted for my family.  And surprise!!  It was not the same as your family. I found peace in that knowing God has a plan for my family, a specific plan.  

I have had it on my heart to homeschool since I was pregnant with my first baby.  However, we have experienced traditional school for a couple years.  It only proved that my family's plan did not include public/private school.

So....that's nice for you but what about me??  I say PRAY!  PRAY!!  PRAY!!  

Planning to homeschool can be overwhelming but if you build a support system around you and take it day by day, it can be done.  Having a plan is great, however, be ready for plans to change and to know that it will be ok.  I am a planner.  I like to know what I am going to teach my kids, field trips on the calendar and  to-do lists with daily chores and errands made out.  Does that mean it all gets done???  HA!  I laugh at the idea!!

Sneak peak...

I'll stop there.  You get the point.  It is not picture perfect.  It all gets done.  The kids help and the husband does all the hard chores and then some.  My point is don't think only your house looks like that.  Having a clean house is great and necessary to function properly but the real precious gems live in your house, it is not the house itself.

Planning can sound painful to some moms.  For some moms this is a nightmare.  The thought of planning and getting curriculum (if you use one) can feel daunting. You might even wait until the last minute to get things together.  For others who love to organize (that's me), we thrive off the excitement a new book brings and a new beginning.  It is these moms who need to learn to go with the flow when all that planning flies out the window as the weeks of school progress and life has a way of changing plans.

Whether or not the planning process is enjoyable to you, let's go over a few things to get started.

Remember when I said pray??  That is the first step to planning.  Ask God what he wants from you and how to use you this school year.  God knows you, your husband and children more than anyone SO pray!  Pray for wisdom and patience (you'll need it).

You can only do so much!!  I'm going to be blunt!  You can not do it all.  Your kids can not do it all.  Your husband can not do it all.  Say no!  Yes....say no!  I have learned this the hard way.  There is freedom and power in saying no.  Yes, feelings will get hurt and maybe friends will pull away but you know what?  O'well!!  True friends and I mean true friends who love you know matter what will still love you after saying no. You will be a better mom and your family will appreciate it.  

Say no!!  This is not a typo.  You need to hear it again.  I know you want to join 42 co-ops and have the kids play 28 instruments and be in the play and be in sports and have a job (phew).......I am that way.  I get excited and I want my kids to have a rich and full life.  I want them to have a good time but you can't do it all and you sure can't have it all.  It is much better for us to teach our kids contentment and independence than it is to have every minute of every day accounted for.  Let them be bored.  Let them figure out how to entertain themselves.  They won't die. I promise.

You will fail, you will succeed.    God is in control and cares about every aspect of your life. There is so much information out there.  The internet alone has it all.  The library, conferences and talking with friends provides a wealth of information and that is a good thing.  You will build lesson plans and buy books and some will work and some will flop.  There will be school days where everything feels right, euphoria oozing from the walls and then there will be other days where if a bomb hit your house that would have made it a good day.  

Set goals.  What is important to you and your husband when it comes to your child's character and technical abilities and academics?   Talk with your husband. Ask your kids.  Write them down.  It can and will change as your kids grow up, so revisit it from time to time.  Make lists, write in journals and use a calendar.  It will help clear your mind and you will rest better at the end of the day.

Here are a few things that are important to my family:
  • character
  • personal hygiene
  • life skills
  • problem solvers 
  • ability to self teach
  • reading, writing, leadership, etc
  • independence
  • hard working
  • selfless heart
God takes care of all of the details and He will takes care of yours as you dedicate them to His care.  The dividends you will reap in homeschooling cannot be measured. 

Bible verses to get you through your day, week, life...

Romans 8:28 - And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Matthew 19:26 - But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.

Deuteronomy 31:8 It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”


  1. Sometimes I need to learn to say NO! That word is hard for me...

  2. Great post!!! This is a great resource to share with any friends who are considering homeschool. Thanks!

  3. Wonderfully put my friend! I find myself overbooking my homeschool time and not only overwhelm them, but myself. I love the list of priorities too! Great post, so delighted to follow you!

    1. I'm glad we have each other while we do this homeschool thang!

  4. Lovely post! I'm sure it will bless many people :)

    Going from my own experience, I would add that it's best to focus on doing what you believe God is leading you to do, and not on having your children turn out a certain way. Wish I'd know that when I started!


    1. That is wisdom right there! I need that reminder often.